Insightful Discussions with Valena

a 26 hour New Year marathon!

2009-12-30T21:21:00.004-07:00

I've set my first goal of the new year - to make 300 new FaceBook friends by January 1st, less than 26 hours from now. I have enjoyed meeting so many new friends and re-connecting with familiar friends, since I've been on FB these last few months. I am a social person by nature and I enjoy helping others where I can. So the more friends the better!

Now as a Successful Living Coach I know the importance of having a good support system when working on a new goal or making small changes in life. So that is where, I hope, you come in.

In order for me to meet these 300 new fabulous friends, I need your help. What I would like to ask you is, if you could think of at least 4 of your friends that you could suggest to me that would have some interest or commonality with me.

You can read more about me in my FB profile or on my website. See the the tabs above. Or I could give you a quick synopsis. I like some of those fun apps on FB; I am a woman in the middle stage of life; I am a mom, a grandma (Jamma); I consider myself a spiritual business woman; one of my life's passions is to help other women along their journey; I have been around the block a few times and have experienced the same thing most average women have; I love to laugh and have fun; be creative by beading and painting and of course, coloring with the grand kids. And the list goes on.

I get along with so many different types of personalities and can relate on so many levels. So if you can think of at least 4 women you know that might have a commonality with me would you please suggest them to me through FB so I can achieve my first goal of the new year?

Thanks for stopping by and I look forward to getting to know you and your friends more these coming months!

Stress and the holidays

2009-12-11T12:59:00.003-07:00

This is a feed that was shared on Face Book starting Thursday 12-11-09. I hope that you find value in what other women have shared and the insights I shared with them. I would like to encourage you to share your stress experience here so others women may gain wisdom that may help them. Check back here often and see what insight I share on your post and go visit me on FB - Valena Hunley and see what else is going on!

VH - Stess and holidays they say go hand in hand. I find that stress looks different from one person to the next at this time of year. My stressors are time limits to get stuff done. I think it helps others to know they are not alone in how they feel when stressed, so why not share some of yours!

Carol Carskadon - Yes, Mine is I will be hosting the xmas eve party at my house for 30+ family members!! But it will all be worth it

VH - Thanks for sharing Carol. Your stressor shows how some stress is good for us and that their can be benefits from having it. Ride the wave of it's energy and you'll have a awesome party!

VH - "Come on everyone, encourage others to share their stressors. Thanks Carol for your insight!"

Catherine Llewellyn - self employemnt stress work my arse off til 23rd to enjoy five days off then back at it again the 28th no paid vacations here also missing my fam in California especially mom

VH - Thanks for sharing Cathy. That type of stress is what you might consider chronic stress. It's on going and necessary for daily survival. But watch out...if you don't have good enough releases it can cause havoc on all your systems!

VH - thanks to Cathy for her insight. As a Coach I see lots of different stressors that effect the lifestyle of women. I myself have an abundant amount. See the comments in the thread below (on Face Book Thursday 12-11-09)to see what other women are experienceing and some potential eye-openers about them. Share your insight and I will share back!

Nicole Valencia - My stress comes from knowing I am the sole provider for my children, it is up to me to meet all of there needs emotionally, socially, physically, financially (well I did say all) and to be there to catch them when/if I am unable to meet there needs as well. I guess just knowing that I am it and there is no other. Their survival is dependent on me.

(Face Book Friday 12-11-09)
VH - As we were all sharing yesterday (on FB)about our stress and where it comes from, I'd like to thank Nicole for sharing her awareness of stress.

VH - Nicole, you share a common stress amongst other single parents. My insight for you, and others, is to your focus on building strong support systems. When under extreme stress, such as a single parent, emotional, spiritual, mental and of course physical support is a must so that the stress doesn't alter "who you are" into "how you are".

VH - help others through this stressful time of year by sharing your awareness and insights around your stress. What are some of your solutions to coping and/or releasing stress? Share it here!

Are There Choices?

2009-05-15T13:46:00.001-06:00

Do you ever feel you have very few choices or even worse, NO CHOICES AT ALL?

I have found that to be a common theme amongst women.

I remember the exact day I freed myself from the bondage of "No Choice" mentality. That was the biggest Transition in my journey up to that point in time.

Your feelings around choice are directly related to your Perception of the situation you are faced with. That situation that needs your action of choice to resolve it.

There is always a choice. It takes a lot of courage and inner strength to choose the least popular choice.

Your strength as a woman is challenged everyday. And just for the sheer fact that you endure the majority of those challenges is a testimonial to that strength! But in order to use that inner strength to achieve more choices you will need to be open to the limitless possibilities that exist.

There are tools, or life skills, you can acquire that will empower you next time you are faced with that feeling that your choices are limited.

Sharing your experiences you've had around limited choices and how that felt can help empower and support you as well as other women who are faced with similar situations.

If you would like to share your story, I will share any insights I might have to your post.

Have You Ever Wondered?

2009-05-15T13:35:00.001-06:00

Have you ever wondered what effect Transition has on you?

Since you are in a constant state of Transition it would be extremely valuable to know the powerful effects it has on your Systems. Mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

One way Transition affects you and every others woman the same is with stress.

Stress and Transition go hand in hand. How you deal with that stress and its effects on your Systems depends entirely on your Transition Style, which in turn will determine your level of success with that Transition.

Knowing your Transition Style Profile will help you discover the perception you have around a specific Transition, which in itself, is invaluable insight.

Share your recent Transition and how you dealt with it and I will offer you some insights to your Transition Style in that particular situation.

Welcome to the Beginning of Our Discussions!

2009-05-14T20:03:00.000-06:00

Hello and Welcome.

I am Valena Hunley and I am a Women's Tranformation Coach.

This blog will focus on question and concerns women often have either, consciously or unconsciously, in their daily life. I hope you will join with me in sharing your insights on questions and posts I, or others like you, offer.

Their is no better teacher than life and the life of others that walk in shoes similar to yours.

If you have questions and/or concerns I also encourage you to post those. I will offer my wisdom and experience, as a Woman's Coach, Hypnotherapist, entreprenuer, mom, grandma(Jamma) and woman.

I hope to make this a place that you will want to stop in before you begin your day for inspiration. A comfy place to hang out when you get done with your long day of balancing the many hats you wear and you are ready to kick off those shoes and relax with others who can so relate to the day you've had. Or especially a place you would consider to seek out when the world around you is causing you to feel out of control and you are looking for that glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel that will help you through it all.

Feel free to drop me an email at Insights4U@unfoldinginsights.com